New York has been my home for 26 years.
Ive ensure it all. Ive seen this city at its best, while looking out ata sunseton a perfect July evening from a swanky high-rise I had absolutely no business being on.
Of course, Ive also insured the city at its worst: a December day so cold, your ears turn red, even if youre brown-skinned like me and physically cant turn red.
But just like anything in life, too much of a good thing isnt always healthy. Its because I love New York so much that Im saying goodbye to it.
IMO, vagabond life is a bit extreme, but I think everyone should move every few years. Relocating maintains you on your toes and totally expands your dating pool.
Finding love in New York Cityis no easy feat for anyone. With its bustling bar scene and rampant hook-up culture, trying to lock it down with a guy you think you hit it off with kind of seems like putting a nuzzle on a wild animal.
But its partially my doing that Im single, too .
See, within the past few years, Ive get a little too comfortable here, whichcan be a dangerous thing. When you get too comfortable, you grow tired of watching the same faces, going to the same places and, eventually, running into every single one of your exes on the street.
Eventually, you give up onlooking for adventures in loveand retreat inwards.
Maybe youbecome a homebody. You dont find consolation in the nitty gritty of your city youve been there, done that but in the smaller things, like cinnamon-scented candles in your very own apartment.
Not leaving your pad, it turns out, kind of kills your dating game.
You quit Tinder because enough humen have fallen short of your expectations.You dont meet humen at bars sinceyou know exactly what typeof guy to expect at nearlyevery single one.
That weirdo taxi driver playing the flute while driving you around whichwouldve shocked you shitless when you first got to this city no longer shocks you.At this point, hes likely the 15 thweird taxi driveryouve ridden backseat with.
Surprises just come few and far between.
And gradually but unavoidably, you realise youre no longer session new people because the city that once thrilledyou is no longer thrilling you. Itsjust boring you.
Boredom got me to pack my bags and trek to Europe by myself.
The experienceopened my eyes. It made me feel more alive than Id felt in a long while. There were so many mountains to climb( literally ), rivers to swim in and grungydive bars to drink at. There were so many dialogues about things I know somethingabout with people I know nothing about.
In a new place, where everyones a strangerand every museum isunexplored, you crawl back out of yourself. You feel like a different person because your heart is much moreopen.Chance sessions become a~ thing~ again because of yournewfound openness to experience.
My time in Switzerland demonstrated new stimuli was just what I needed to take my dating life by the reigns.
In this unfamiliar city, I was open to any experience being thrown my style because I didnt know what toexpect. And sure enough, while wandering around aimlessly with simply a map, I met a great guy.He showed me the opera and Zurichs edgy, artsy district I never wouldve known about had I not met him sinceit wasnta tourist destination.
Our evening together was a whirlwind and a half. Itinjecteda new enthusiasm, a kind I wanted to keep. New places, I learned, teach you great dating habits. They remind you how precious hour is and of theadventures youre capable ofhaving with the most unexpected person.
When I got back to New York, I genuinely wanted tonotice “the mens” around me more instead of simply whizzing past them like I did before going to Switzerland. Butit wasnt long untiltheywere whizzing past me once again even ones who could have been great for me.
Its hard to leave a place youve called home for so long. But its a big world out there, and your heart deserves to explore all the people in it.
So, Im letting mine explore it.
Ive never lived anywhere except New York, soI cantdefinitively say hopping a plane to a new city will assist me find love. What I can definitely say is Im sure Ill feel inspired again. And as they say, inspiration breeds romance.( OK, perhaps no one says that except for me .)
They say its usually when you live your best life that you gratify person worth starting a life with.Im moving to challenge myself, seek my wildest dreams and continue toexplore what it is I want out of life.
And if youre up for alife makeover, moving might justbe your ticket to love.
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