Scoffing messy food, arguing in public … the real relationship landmarks | Daisy Buchanan

A study has found that new couples wait for five months before uttering the three magic words. But how can you really tell if your new partner is for keeps?

I told my husband that I was in love with him precisely seven weeks after I gratified him. Id had a bottle of wine, survived a traumatic hen party, and feelings were running high but blithely, he felt the same way. I knew marriage moved relatively fast, but I didnt realise quite how fast until I read new research from claiming that most couples wait until they have been dating for five months 144 days on average to say those terms. The survey also says that the majority of couples will get married after three years, a one-third of us will wait a month until well undress in front of our be associated with the illuminations on, and five and a half months is the typical time to go Facebook official.

But what about the other relationship milestones? The ones that you might not tell your mum about, but that feel every bit as emotionally significant as vows and a ring? Here are the unofficial relationship landmarks that we dont talking here, but matter just as much 😛 TAGEND

Three months: letting them see you without your contact lenses

The first part of a relationship is a battle between vanity and practicality, irrespective of gender. This isnt just about not letting your new love see you without makeup but about mutely sprinting to the bathroom every morning to convince them that you wake up reeking of rises and tasting of Aquafresh. Ive been in relationships where Ive slept in my contacts and contracted conjunctivitis, because I dreaded “the mens” would stop imagination me if they saw me in specs. After three months you stop worrying about being a sight for sore eyes, and merely get sick of having sore eyes.

Four months: feeing something messies in their presence


There comes a day when you have to show your partner youre a glutton with a melted cheese addiction. Photograph: Alamy

In the beginning its all posh pop-ups and giggling over raw seaweed soup served in mason jars, but there comes a day when you have to show your partner the real you a glutton with a melted cheese craving who usually drops a minimum of 30% of their food down their shirt. If I really like someone, I suggest that we go out for Mexican food before the six-month mark. I dont wishes to get serious merely to get dumped as soon as theyve insured me eating a burrito.

Five months: get them to go to Boots for you

As you start to fall for each other, you begin to acknowledge that your bodies are not just smooth, scented, red hot love machines, and your trip-ups to the chemist evolve so that the bumper box of Durex is the least embarrassing thing in your basket. This isnt just about tampons you know its love when theyll buy your Regaine, moustache bleach and constipation aids.

Six months: sharing telephone passcodes

This is much more serious( and less legally problematic) than swapping PIN numbers, and it stops drivers and navigators from having serious opposes over Google maps. As their own lives start to intertwine, you need occasional access to each others email, and you might need to WhatsApp their mum while theyre in the shower or post pictures to their Instagram while theyre posing in an remarkably big hat. If things are getting super serious, you can add their fingerprints to your Touch ID.

Eight months: going on holiday together and using the loo in the hotel room

Years ago, a boyfriend baffled me on a romantic journey to Florence because he left the hotel to buy postcards every single morning. I started to worry that he had a secret girlfriend based at another B& B, but after some probing I learned that he was trying to keep the romance alive by using the facilities at the coffee shop over the road. At the eight month mark, there is no longer any need to maintain this level of pretence, and its normal for your lover to lock themselves in the en suite with the newspaper.

One year: slagging off their parents in front of them

In the first flush of love, when youre trying to impress, your partners mothers can do no incorrect, even if you watch them being sexist, racist, or in the case of my poor husband, trying to kill a live rat with a hammer.( Our cat had mutilated it, my mother felt she was delivering a merciful death jolt .) However, after 12 months youre allowed to make like an unimaginative school child and throw the odd your mum into any argument.

14 months: buying insurance together

Its the first step to a lasting legal union not an involvement, but a document that means youre collectively liable for something and have to know about each others middle names and pre-existing medical conditions. However, you can still left open if they insist on buying it from a site that will send them a free toy.

18 months: having a fight at a wedding

When youre a brand new couple, other peoples bridals are a exhilaration. Youre ambassadors for love, and youre spreading the smug vibes more enthusiastically than the mother of the bride is hanging vintage hessian bunting. However, you know youre a real couple when youre drunkenly hollering, Why do “youve never” look at me like that? and Did you have a thing with the best man? before the speeches have ended.

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