9 More Lesbian Sex Questions Youve Had But Have Been Too Afraid To Ask

Welcome back, my heterosexual kittens, my hyper-questioning lovely dames of this fine, ever-spinning world, my slew of gorgeous fag queens, my irrepressibly curious straight sons( Damn, are you son beasts curious !).

It was just shy of two weeks ago that I penned a detailed article entitled “1 2 Lesbian Sex Questions You’ve Had But Have Been Too Afraid To Ask.”

Together, we navigated the dark and tempestuous waters of scissoring( Yes, it’s genuinely a thing ), the elusive definition of lesbian sex, the purpose of having sex with a dildo over a real dick( key note: Dildos aren’t dicks, darlings ), strap-ons and gender roles within lesbian relationships.

A ton of fun was had, and a ton of information was learned by all. In fact, we had such a grand ol’ period discussing lesbian sex that I decided to do a part two.

That’s right, pretty babes. Part mother f* cking two. It’s your lucky day.

For those of you just stumbling upon this crazy lesbian sexuality article, allow me to provide you with a brief debrief: I was tired of all of my straight friends inundating me with drunken the issue of how my lovers and I manage our sexuality and relationship lives as lesbians.

I figured, f* ck it, lez clear it up once and for all. So I dutifully sent out an anonymous survey to 29 self-identified heterosexual Millennials( ages 18 to 34) asking them for their deepest and darkest the issue of queer girl sexuality. I assured them NO topic was off limits, and I would approach everything free of judgment( How else can one learn ?).

I answered 12 of their questions in my previous article, and now I’m here and faggot and ready to finish off the rest.

Disclaimer: I’m not( repeat: NOT ), the reigning Queen Dyke authority. I’m not the Ceo of the National Justice League of Lesbians. And I’m most definitely NOT speaking on behalf of the entire faggot girl community.

One of the manythings I love so dearly about being a queer is the colorful, diverse array of experiences, fetishes and relationship dynamics scattered throughout our fascinating community.

This is just my experience. Just one fag girl view on the giant fag girl spectrum.

But one is better than none, right?

1. If you’re bad at oral, are you considered hopeless in the sack?

Oral is definitely a big contender in video games of sex. However, it’s not the only route we have sex. We are blessed with fingers, playthings, scissoring, humping and a stealth slew of other sex positions to play with.

But we do like oral. In fact, I have yet to meet a lesbian who isn’t authentically passionate about the art of going down.

And to be honest, most women are pretty f* cking astonishing at oral sex.

See, when you have the same exact components as your partner, you inherently understand the rhythm of what feels good.

Not all daughters like to receive oral the same route. Every vagina is entirely different and equipped with its very own trigger spots that are unique to the individual girl.

Some girls like a fast and rhythmic tongue. Others opt it to be slow and delicate. The prospects are endless, which is why it’s so direly important( I’m talking to you boys) to not treat every vagina the same.

Listen to your girl’s body. Ask questions about what she likes. That’s what us lezzies do, and that’s just one of the reasons we are so damn talented at the art of oral.

The other reason I believe daughters are so good at oral sex is that we tend to be altruistic beasts eager to please our partners. I know personally, I can get off just as intensely from pleasing my partner as I can from when she pleases me.

It’s like anything in life: You’re better when you’re enjoying yourself.


2. How do you decide what you are/ are not going to do in bed if the definition of sex is more flexible? In other terms, do you have to give oral every single day ?

As I stated in my original Lesbian Sex 101, our definition of sex is definitely more flexible than it is in the heteronormative world. However, drawing upon my own personal experiences, reaching an orgasm tends to be the ultimate goal.

It doesn’t matter how we get there, so long as we get there.

Queer girl sex is highly intimate. We aren’t afraid to get up close and personal. Maybe it’s because we don’t have dicks attached to us that we can simply stick into our partner. I don’t know.

We also talk about sh* t. We set fairly blunt borders( lesbians tend to be the bluntest bitches on the block ). So even if they are love oral with a fervent passion, we don’t have to have it in order for what we’re doing to be deemed SEX.

Sometimes we just use toys. Sometimes we like to get down and dirty with our bare hands. Sometimes we just scissor the f* cking night away.


3. Why is scissoring even a thing? It seems reasonably pointless.

Scissoring is an advanced move. It’s not for the weak. It necessitates coordination, and oftentimes comes with an accidental kick in the head. But that doesn’t make it pointless.

If you can manage to get into the rhythm of scissoring, it’s fairly mind-blowing. The clitoris has twice as many nerve ending as a man’s d* ck. So imagine the fireworks that explosion like superstars across the sky when two clitorises are induced at once by each other?


4. Does a strap-on or dildo really replace a penis, sensation-wise?

Dildos are beautiful things.

You can get them in a plethora of shapes and sizings and pretty pastel colorings perfectly suited to your body. There are dildos specifically designed to reach your G-spot. There are double-sided dildos with bulging veins. There are dildos you can hold in fairly leather harness and get f* cked with. Some of them even vibrate.

Personally speaking, I think they’re better than a penis. No comparing. But that could just be because I’m an exclusively lady-loving dike who is put off( sexually) by a son body( no contempt, gents ).


5. I’ve heard that lesbians become committed much faster than gay-guy or hetero relationships. Is that true?

I wish I could say the stereotype wasn’t true, but for most of us, well, it is .

Surely you’ve heard the famous joke: “What does a lesbian bring to a second date? ”

Wait for it….

“A U-HAUL . ”

Clever, right?

So why? What is it that builds girls such intense animals who know what the f* ck they want and just go for it?

It’s because we are unafraid of commitment. We trust our intestine. We aren’t afraid to confront our feelings.

If two women start to feel something beautiful happening between them, they will fearlessly pull the trigger without hesitation.


6. Do you miss having sexuality with guys?

F* ck no.


7. Do you want a dude involved if you want a threesome?

How do I put this delicately? F* ck no.

I love humen as friends, co-workers and co-conspirators, but nothing turns me on about a man.

I’m attracted to women physically, emotionally, spiritually. The style she smells and the style she moves.

Plus, if I saw a GUY put his hand on MY GIRL during sex, holy hell. I don’t know what I might do to him. Hopefully it wouldn’t involve first-degree murder.


8. How often are strap-ons NOT employed? Are there lesbians who don’t utilize dildos?

Toy are just that: toys.

Strap-ons, dildos — they’re all only icing on the big sex cake. The cake is good on itsown too.

Yeah, they’re all fun play games with, but I’m not dependent on them in order to have good sex. I was two years deep into my lesbianism before I even began to dabble in all that, and I was still having fairly f* cking astonishing sex.

While I undoubtedly enjoy have them, I don’t need them at all. And I do know some lesbians who don’t use them at all. We’re fairly talented without all that riffraff.


9. What does it feel like to take over the role that a heterosexual male would normally take?

I was born into a very heterosexual, gender-role-oriented existence. I’m the daughter of a proper gentleman, who catered to us girls like it was his job.

When I first came out, I was scared I would have to abandon being treated like a lady( which I enjoy ). I was scared as f* ck to open a door for a girl or pick her up for a date or buy her rises. I couldn’t imagine doing traditionally “male” romantic things for my girlfriend.

But then, I fell into the tranquil ocean of love. And all I WANTED was to do those lovely little “boyfriend” things for my girlfriend. And she did them to me back.

It felt like this beautiful, equal dynamic. I ordered the wine. She held open the door. We just did what felt right without the pressure of gender stereotypes.

I came to find it was the most natural thing in the world to buy blooms for my girlfriend.

Manners and acts of kindness have no gender, kittens.

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