1. Having abetter relationship with myself allowed me to have better relationships with other people .
I started to treat myself well, and I surrounded myself with people who treated me the route I deserved to be treated people who wanted me to be happy. I stopped putting up withthe downers. I let go of grudges that I had held onto, that wereheavy and were dragging me down.
2. I learned that it is okay to be happy.
There will always be bad things in the world, but I cannot spend my entirelife worrying and feeling guilty that someone out there is not as well off as me if it’s out of my control. You cannot change the whole world, but you can change how you feel about the world and yourself. I will do what I can to build the world a better place, but won’t beat myself up when I cannot.
3. I realized that it’sokay to want what I want in life.
My family wanted me to be a doctor, my profs wanted me to be a scientist but did not know what I wanted. Eventually I realise thisis life, and I am the only person who is going to be with me as long as I live so I want to choose a career that I love every day. I am still not quite sure what that is, but I’m enjoying the process of discovering it.
4. Being selfish mademe a better friend.
Before I was constantly struggling with disarray and darkness in my life, but when I started to shed light on myself, I was able to clearly consider my friends and be there for them one hundred percentage without being dragged down by my own issues. Once I started taking care of myself, I could genuinely cater to my friends. It attained me a nicer person to be around. I liked myself more, and at this point, I can finally say I would be friends with me.
5. I became less judgmental.
It is a universal truth that we do not want to be judged, even thoughwe still magistrate everybody else. But whenyou take care of yourself and are happy with yourself, you do not feel the need to find faults in other people. You consider what is good in others, instead ofzoning in on their flaws. Focusing more on myselfmade me more content. It is all a matter of perspective, and my glass is startingto always look half full.
6. I stopped blaming other people for my unhappiness and for the things that did not go well in my life.
When I was younger and something went wrong, I never had a hard time discovering someone else to blamed. It was easy to find fault in myself and belittle myself untilI could not anymore. I left myself feeling down and unworthy. But whenyou start to love yourself, and thenshit happens, you are more capable ofdealing with it. Those horrible incidents that ingested my life in the past, are now a few minutes( or hours) of some tears, wine, and a good talk with a friend. I started to believe that all bad phases are just a phase, and they pass. Everything will always be okay in the end.
7. I started beingkind to myself.
I always tried to be nice and kind to others before, but once I started to treat myself with kindness, it became much easier to be kinder to and more considerate of other people. When you feel good on the inside, it is easy to spread that illumination of happiness to others. Things merely look better when you are loving towards yourself and everyone else.
8. Every day ismore exciting now.
I have bigger problems now than I did ten years ago, but it’s okay, because I determined the strength to deal with these problemswhile continuing to live fully. Yes, things can get hard and you are able to want to give up, but when you think about yourself the route you would think about a loved one, you will not give up on yourself. You know it will be tough, butyou also know that life is too good to ever give up.
So, call it selfish I set myself first and took care of myself first and now the whole world seems more beautiful, every day has a unique charm to it, and I smile more often. There is this calmness inside me that I had never felt before. Not everything is perfect, but I am okay with that. I feel mentally strong. I consider the very best in other people and I want to believe that there is more good in the world. I can finally say that I have a happy heart. I love ensure the world from this perspective. Its the best position ever.